- Dr. Mena Birett
Updated: Jul 14, 2020
Hesitation – A pause in time. You will never get this exact moment on this exact day back again. Every time you hesitate, you stall your life. You are making an active choice to accept where you are at currently and are not aspiring to reach higher.
Sounds a bit drastic, doesn’t it? It’s the truth. In order to achieve your goals, you must not allow hesitation, procrastination, or perfectionism to come into your plans. They are all dream-stealers.
Positive distractions, self-control, and shifting from mindful to mindless gives the brain time to process complex problems in a relaxed state and also restores your energy for the next round of mindful work.
Have you suffered in silence, thinking that you were the only one in the world who lived in CHAOS? There is no special tip for getting your work done. It just has to be done. The problem has always been our perfectionism. As children we were taught that if you can’t do it right, don’t do it all. It was a lesson we took to heart. We were also taught, by example, that academic work took a huge block of time.
We all have busy schedules and, most of us, just want our academic work to magically complete itself. Well, that does not happen unless you have your routines firmly grounded. Even small routines will change your hesitation to tackle the work.
When you sandwich your new attitudes along with your routines and toss in some determination; you have the recipe for a wonderful feeling of control.
In the past, our biggest problem may have been getting moving when we have the chance. For as long as we can remember we have done academic work only when a project needed to be done or when an exam was on the horizon.
We didn’t make the time to do a little every day, because we didn’t think it would do any good. We felt that we needed a whole night to study and then we would be so proud of ourselves when we stood back and looked at what we had accomplished. That would only last a few hours because the feeling of accomplishment would soon be replaced with the “I don’t have the time” attitude.
This was all because we didn’t have routines to help us keep up. Routines are not the straight jackets that we think they are. With them we can be even more spontaneous than before because now we can tackle our work and not hide. As an example, if we have our work done it is easy to take advantage of an opportunity, like going out with friends, because our work is done and we can enjoy the experience instead of regretting it later.
In the past in our CHAOS, we had to have lots of notice to get ready to complete academic work. It would take days or weeks to get it together and an all-night cramming session the day before a project or exam was due.
Since it has always taken so long to get ready for academic work we just don’t put the effort into it. It is time to address and maintain routines so that we can dig deep and get the work done without being overwhelmed by the process. The secret to keeping on top of your academics is to address work on a daily basis.
Be on watch for those tell-tell words, “I can do that later, I’ll just put it here for a minute till…..” That is a warning sign that you could be getting ready to build a wall of resistance against getting things done.
I want for you the peace that comes from building routines one habit at a time and changing your attitude toward your academic success.
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